Show Your Your Feelings Part 1

There are many ways to show you care about someone. The easiest way to show you care about someone is to tell someone that you care. The thing is words are cheap so they are easy to use but being cheap they are not worth much. Despite the fact that they are not worth much they are essential. You can show someone you care by doing crazy things but if you never tell them how much you care they will miss it. So make sure you tell people you care about them but never think that this is sufficient. Words are necessary but not sufficient to show you care about somone.

Alpha and Beta Are Different but Equal

I am sorry I have not posted in awhile. I was unexpectedly away from my internet connection. I will hopefully be able to continue to post regularly now.
I want to use this post go on the record as saying I do not have an opinion as to whether it is better to be an alpha or a beta. (Being on omega though is probably not good). There are advantages and disadvantages to both being an alpha or a beta. Different people are looking for different things in sexual relationships and understanding what you are looking for is essential to determine whether you want to act like on alpha or a beta. It is also crucial to know the differences to help look for the correct mate. Based on your preferences you can keep or change your behavior and you can also look in specific places for your lover. I may sound at times like I am advocating for either alphas or betas but what I am really trying to do is give you the best information if you do want to change or the best information for looking for the correct mate.

Alpha Male Case Study

As I previously stated there is really a spectrum with alphas at one end omegas at the other and betas in the middle. Most people do not fit neatly into one category. It is instructive to look at examples of people that do fit neatly into one category.

One example of a pure alpha male is John Tucker from the movie John Tucker Must Die. Here are his characteristics: he is the type of guy every women wants to be with and every guy wants to be. He is rich, attractive, and a basketball star. He often dates more than one women at once and no woman ever turns him down.

Some girls who were wronged by him want to get revenge on him. These girls first try telling everyone he has herpes but then he turns this around and becomes a hero for opening people’s minds to education on STDs. Then the girls try to give him hormones so that he will act more feminine. It then becomes the vogue thing for guys to show their feelings. He even gets caught wearing women’s underwear and then it becomes in fashion for every guy to wear women’s lingerie. He has everything an alpha has: if something goes wrong he makes it fashionable, he is unstoppable.

The thing that does eventually break John Tucker is he falls in love like a beta. The thing that will break an alpha is for them to start feeling. They do not know what to do with the feelings because they are not used to them.

Alphas Who Acts Like Betas

There are alphas who act like betas in how they treat relationships. These people have the benefits of both categories. Like alphas when you first meet them you will have an instant physical attraction or lust for them. Unlike most alphas though these people get into long term relationships. Therefore these people also are really good girlfriends and boyfriends. So after the lust dies down these people, like betas, will do the big things (and the little things) that make a relationship last.

People want to be with alphas because they have an initial lust for the person but this attraction dies down when you realize that they have no depth. Betas have plenty of depth to them but you are not as initially attracted to them. Alphas who act like betas you have a lust for and have depth. They have it all. Unfortunately these people are few and far between so it is harder to find them: they never have a problem finding a partner and they stay with their partner once they find them. If you do catch one of these diamonds in the rough make sure to hold on.

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Beta Turned Alpha Females

Freakonomics brings down the different things that get responses on dating sites. For men if they have a high paying job, a great education, or a tall stature the adds get more responses. For women whether or not they get a response is highly based on looks – based on the picture and description of being good looking.

This teaches an important lesson. In beta to alpha males I discussed that if a man gets a job that is high paying they will get more of a response. This is the only thing that matters to women that is easy to change for a man. For a woman it is very different. Looks are very important to women are relatively easy to change through dieting or surgery. When a beta looking female changes her looks she will get a lot more attention.

The difference between guys who become alpha via money and women who become alpha via looks is that women get all the benefits of the alpha. They can now with better looks find many more men to have sex with them. Men with more money have an easier time getting the date but a harder time getting to bed.

This is not to say that the only thing that makes a women alpha is looks. A woman who has an outgoing demeanor, is funny, and/or known to get around can have subpar looks and still be an alpha. With women though to be an alpha looks do matter and even without changing personality a woman can become alpha. A man who changes his looks can not become a true alpha without changing his personality. Also note that betas who in the past came to want the emotional connection are not going to get more emotional connections by changing their looks. They can have more sex but sex does not equal emotional connections. In fact in women this extra sex can actually hurt them emotionally because they will find it hard to remain detached from their sexual hookups.