Thursday, March 22, 2007

Alpha Females

The first post sets out the general theory of relationships. This post starts to give more depth to that theory.

By popular demand I will go into more depth with how each type of person works.

Alpha females are girls that are attractive enough and outgoing enough where they can sleep with a guy almost any day of the week just by going out to a bar or club. These girls have figured out that men are not so selective in who they sleep with. Alpha females know that by showing a guy a little interest he will pounce and make a move on them.

Alpha females may have many motivations for their behavior - they may think they don't have time for a relationship so they fill the void with random hookups, they may think they love the sex but just do not want the bag of a relationship, or they may have just like controlling guys the way guys try to control girls. Usually this behavior really stems from a deeper problems the alpha female had in earlier years: the lack of a strong male figure while they were growing up, sexual abuse, or a boyfriend who really broke them. A lot of times the excuse the alpha female gives for her behavior is not the actual motivation. Though she may say "I have to much going on with work/school etc" she really may mean "I am afraid to commit to a relationship because I have some past that has turned me skeptical/afraid of the opposite sex.

The problem with the alpha female is she never gets the satisfaction she is seeking. Sleeping around just does not do it for women. Nor do short term post sleeping around "relationships".

Alpha females include girls who get into many relationships for short periods of time. These are the type that are never single but never in a long term relationship. This stems from a girl who knows what she wants and knows she can get a guy at the drop of a hat. With the confidence that she can get a new guy at any time she has little incentive to stay with a guy who is not perfect. This of course creates unrealistic expectations. These expectations may subconsciously be far to high because this variety of alpha female who does not just use her status to hook up (but to also get into short term relationships) is an alpha for the same controlling reasons as her promiscuous counter part.

Every alpha female is different requiring a specific plan of action. If you are an alpha female and are finding that you are not getting the satisfaction you desire you should try lowering your expectations, not sleeping with guys you have just met, and giving relationships a chance to grow.

If you are an alpha female who wants more specific advice for your situation email relationshipguru18@gmail.com

The post tomorrow will be on the alpha male.






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