Thursday, March 29, 2007

Beta Turned Alpha Females


Freakonomics brings down the different things that get responses on dating sites. For men if they have a high paying job, a great education, or a tall stature the adds get more responses. For women whether or not they get a response is highly based on looks – based on the picture and description of being good looking.

This teaches an important lesson. In beta to alpha males I discussed that if a man gets a job that is high paying they will get more of a response. This is the only thing that matters to women that is easy to change for a man. For a woman it is very different. Looks are very important to women are relatively easy to change through dieting or surgery. When a beta looking female changes her looks she will get a lot more attention.

The difference between guys who become alpha via money and women who become alpha via looks is that women get all the benefits of the alpha. They can now with better looks find many more men to have sex with them. Men with more money have an easier time getting the date but a harder time getting to bed.

This is not to say that the only thing that makes a women alpha is looks. A woman who has an outgoing demeanor, is funny, and/or known to get around can have subpar looks and still be an alpha. With women though to be an alpha looks do matter and even without changing personality a woman can become alpha. A man who changes his looks can not become a true alpha without changing his personality. Also note that betas who in the past came to want the emotional connection are not going to get more emotional connections by changing their looks. They can have more sex but sex does not equal emotional connections. In fact in women this extra sex can actually hurt them emotionally because they will find it hard to remain detached from their sexual hookups.





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